The Fear of Discipling Others

Discipling others is one of the core missions of followers of Jesus, yet it’s a responsibility many people shy away from. Despite its importance, the idea of mentoring someone in their spiritual journey can feel overwhelming, and there are several reasons why people hesitate to take on this role.

1. Fear of Inadequacy
Many individuals feel unqualified to disciple others. They might think, “I don’t know enough” or “What if I say the wrong thing?”. This fear often stems from the misconception that being a disciple-maker requires perfect knowledge or a flawless life. However, discipleship isn’t about being an expert; it’s about walking alongside someone in humility and authenticity.

2. Fear of Rejection
The thought of someone saying no to an invitation to grow spiritually can be intimidating. Rejection feels personal, especially in matters as deep as faith. This fear can lead to procrastination or avoidance, even when there’s a genuine desire to help others grow.

3. Time and Energy Concerns
Discipleship requires commitment—time to meet, energy to engage, and the emotional investment of truly caring for someone else. In a world where people are stretched thin, this can feel like an impossible task. Yet, discipleship often happens in the midst of daily life rather than in extra activities.

4. Imposter Syndrome
For many, the thought of guiding someone else spiritually can trigger imposter syndrome. Questions like “Who am I to lead someone else when I’m struggling too?” can lead to a paralysis of action. It’s important to remember that growth is a shared journey; no one has “arrived.”

5. Cultural and Social Norms
In a society that values individualism, the idea of intentionally stepping into someone else’s life can feel intrusive. People may worry about being labeled as pushy or overstepping boundaries. This discomfort can discourage well-meaning individuals from initiating discipleship relationships.

Overcoming the Fear
The key to overcoming the fear of discipling others is shifting the focus away from oneself. Discipleship isn’t about being perfect or always having the answers—it’s about showing up, being available, and trusting that growth comes through relationships and God’s work in the process. The best discipleship happens when we embrace our imperfections and model the same grace we hope to extend.

If you’re hesitant about discipling others, remember: it’s not about doing it perfectly—it’s about doing it faithfully. Take the first step, and trust that the rest will unfold as you grow together. And most important of all, Jesus has granted us authority and assured us of His presence throughout the entire journey.